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In short, our generation is more prepared to approach our last few decades with a new set of priorities - albeit sometimes unprepared for the problems that can accompany them.Judy Hollis's story is not untypical of the dozens of women I've talked to about divorce and dating.
'The first man I slept with was a 50-year-old lecturer.
We're back in the work force, if indeed we ever left it when our children were young, with more money and a knowledge that we can take care of ourselves financially.
If a woman's financial position is no longer a barrier to her moving on from an unhappy marriage, neither does age seem to hold us back from trying our luck romantically second or perhaps third time around.
Although the idea of a passionate affair filled my fantasies, my sexual confidence was at rock bottom. After a few disastrous dates with men who were introduced by friends, I met a man I liked. After the massive build-up of nerves and anticipation, I was surprised at how simple and natural it all was - I had forgotten that sex is about how we connect, not whether we have perfect bodies.
Judy Hollis agrees that taking those first few steps is very daunting.
We met online and within a week we'd met under the guise of going for drinks - alcohol gave us both confidence and we ended up back at my house.
'He didn't stay the night, but he did send an email the following day thanking me for a "fun evening".
And these soaring figures are set to surge still further in the decade ahead, as women, in particular, feel less inclined to put up with flagging relationships. In my own social circle, I've witnessed at least a dozen marriage breakdowns in the past two years - including the demise of my own relationship after 25 years.
In two instances among my acquaintances, the men, both in their early 60s, have departed to a much younger woman beckoning from a warm bed.
In fact, she's 51 and the educated, successful director of a blue-chip company - with a 21-year-old daughter.
Her story is an illustration in microcosm of why sexually transmitted diseases among the over-45s are on the increase.
By her own admission, Judy Hollis's behaviour was thoughtlessly promiscuous.