Genital herpes and dating

19-Oct-2018 12:20 by 5 Comments

Genital herpes and dating

Other people wait until they've had a few dates and they're ready to start having sex with that person.

And that's what you bring to a relationship—the person you are, not the virus you have. Check out The STD Project and Herpes Opportunity for more info.

It's hard sometimes to vocalize those things, and it's sometimes scary to look at someone's face when doing that.

My only caution with that would be: Always be confident before you put something in writing, because people screenshot things.

ED: I think everybody after they get diagnosed reads the statistics about how common herpes is, but then looks around and goes, "But I don't know anybody who has herpes!

If one in six people and one in four women have genital herpes, why haven't I heard about it from my friends and family members?

ED: When I was diagnosed, the person I was dating was the classic college boy.

He was really freaked out and quite worried about his reputation and people thinking that he had herpes.

Also, I always tell people: If you need time, take it.

I've had partners disappear and then come back because they were off getting tested and wanted to know before they got involved with me what they already had and bring that to the table. I had a disclosure when I was in college where I told someone that I had herpes and in mid-conversation he Googled it, looked at the transmission statistics and was like, "I don't care. Everybody's different, but I try not to let that anxiety get the best of me when I'm waiting for someone to make up their mind.

Going forward I was prepared to be treated badly and expected harsh rejections, but I didn't get them.

Everyone I was interested in after he and I broke up was really kind and had a sense of humor, and I never went through an experience like that again.

People really want a script and to know exactly what to say.